for the love of humanity

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At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to supporting women who are reclaiming their lives after toxic and emotionally abusive relationships. This path is deeply personal to me, it's one I’ve walked myself for many years. I know what it’s like to face the darkness and slowly, through grace and forgiveness, emerge into a light that is stronger, wiser, more self-aware and self -empowered.

We all experience suffering and hardship. It’s part of the human experience.  One that noone will escape.  I believe we’re here to heal from those experiences and the unhealed trauma that often stays stored in our body, mind, and spirit. We are not meant to stay in pain but to transform it, to grow from it, and to use it as fuel for our growth and evolution.

My journey hasn’t been linear and I don't believe that any healing jorney is linear, there are many ups and downs. In 2018, after years of toxic relationships, I made a choice that would alter the course of my life: I left my marriage of 17 years. It was the most certain I had ever felt in my life and it was the most scared I had ever felt in my life. I was 55, standing at a crossroads, unsure how to move forward. But I knew I had to.

I faced everything: the grief, the anger, the loss of my family, my security and the loss of my identity. I blamed others at first but ultimately realized that a mindset that blames only kept me stuck in my own pain and my own victimhood.   My true healing didn’t begin until I turned my attention inward and took full ownership of my life choices, my patterns, my trauma, my pain and the unconscious ways I had been abandoning myself.

I began to recognize how my childhood survival strategies, people pleasing, overgiving, and self-sacrifice had evolved into co-dependency in adulthood. This wasn’t a truth I wanted to own, but learned through grace that it was an adaptation and coping strategy I learned as a child in order to survive.  And now, it was time to unlearn those patterns of conditioning and re-define who I was.

That process of deep healing became the foundation of my life’s work.

During my 17 year marriage, I experienced a slow erosion of my well-being -  physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Despite living what appeared to be a “healthy lifestyle,” I battled chronic fatigue and brain fog, migraine headaches, autoimmune issues with my thyroid, allergies, gut issues, adrenal dysregulation, and emotional and mental burnout. I struggled with anxiety, apathy, sleep deprivation, and a deep disconnection from my true self.  

I coped by overextending myself for others, keeping the peace, walking on eggshells and numbing with cannabis.  Unbeknownst to me, my nervous system was in a chronic state of dysregulation.  Outwardly, everything looked fine. Inwardly, I was running on empty.  I spent years trying to "heal" myself with holistic and natural remedies.  Eating organic foods, taking supplements to imporve immunity and brain function, walking and caring for my body daily, massage therapy, accupuncture, IV infusions, chiropractic care, journaling, practicing gratitude.  I had a library of books on healing, nutrition, herbs, yoga, meditation, mindfulnlness, spiritual awakening. Nothing worked.  

The shift came when I read the book, Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup. I don't remember buying this book or why but somehow it ended up in my pantry burried behind a bunch of other items until one day, I found it and it called me to explore its contents.  The book unveiled the truth of my life like it was written for me and by me.  Nothing I had read thus far had reasonated with me like this book did.  For the first time, I saw the invisible thread: narcissistic abuse and the co-dependency relationship dynamic I had been living in for 17 years.  That awareness changed everything. I stopped looking for the magic fix and started doing the real work.

In May 2018, I made the leap.  No plan, just the clarity that the pain of staying had become greater than the fear of jumping.  And so it began.

And that’s when Self Care Mastery was born.  In my sister’s basement in Baltimore, Maryland during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic.  The dark night of my soul had emerged and there was not way out but through.

Seven years later, I’m still healing but from a place of empowerment, not survival. I am no longer chasing peace. I am peace. I have learned to trust myself again, to set boundaries, to say no without guilt, and to build a life aligned with my own values.

I share my story because I know I’m not alone. This dynamic of co-dependency and narcissism is more common than we talk about. It’s a relationship dance rooted in childhood adaptations and unmet needs. But this dynamic can be unlearned. With time and safety and self-care, your work can begin.

Self Care Mastery is a personalized, heart-centered self-care program that helps women reclaim their health, rebuild self-trust, and restore balance and resiliancy after trauma and burnout. Every woman’s story is unique so her healing plan should be too.  Healing starts with telling your story.  From there you will explore the question and answer to the most powerful question you will ever ask yourself, "who am I?"  Your answer will be the starting point and how you choose to move forward.  You choose.  You decide.  I offer a safe space and practical stratigies for you to do just that.

We’ll co-create a plan that may include:

• Personalized wellness assessments
   
• Reflective healing exercises

• Strategies for healing your nervous system.
   
• Nutritional guidance & coaching
   
• Stress & emotional regulation tools
   
• Restorative yoga & movement
   
• Mindfulness and somatic practices
   
• Safe, compassionate support without judgment
   

This isn’t just about self-care. It’s about self-liberation and taking your power back. 

You can rewrite your story. You can protect your peace. You can trust yourself again.

It is your God given right to live a good life.  

With the right support, the cycle ends and your healing begins.